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chhata <3's avatar

I’ve been excited to read this since the moment you published it and it’s everything I expected and more <33 i especially love the bit about how as soon as you stand up for yourself everything you’ve said in confidence is suddenly being used against you. It’s so hard being stuck in a situation like that and you’ve articulated it very well !!

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sara's avatar

thank u for this. i’m experiencing this exact scenario & i’ve just realised after a couple of years how much i changed myself in order to bend to their desires and expectations. it’s always not enough anyway, but leaving them it’s just too scary

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Jenna Garib 🦋's avatar

I had been dealing with this exact thing for 10 years before I left the friendship three years ago and it was the best thing I ever did. There is no greater enemy than the one your friends with.

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danica's avatar

on the flip side, it’s such an insane feeling to look back & realize that someone you thought you were close with secretly hated you. my situation was not the same as yours, but it definitely hurts no matter what the scenario was.

it’s a blessing to believe that with new seasons, new friends will come. you will find someone who truly appreciates your friendship & doesn’t take you for granted!!!

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danica's avatar

such beautiful & important piece!! truthfully, i’ve been on the opposite end a few too many times. def sounds like a lot of bpd behaviour. honestly, that’s one of my greatest weaknesses & i’m absolutely working on it! thank you for providing such an open expression of your feelings 🫶🏽

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